Funny post. I wouldnt go as far as to say never but I’m not a big drink buyer either.

im with you. im usually just to cheap lol. but this makes good sense.

These girls have money too…I agree that I have to know you in order to buy drinks…Plus it’s a recession…

okayy well as far as her TRYING to putting herself on the tab, it kind of says something already. Either way if you are at a club expect to spend money here and there don’t be so stingy about it… come on what is a jack and coke $8-9? how much money do you leave your house with…? i understand times are not that great at the moment…but still….

I bartended in Florida clubs and just by observing the girls are no different from here (maybe 15% increase of gold diggers there)… they are looking for a good time and believe a guy should provide part of this time. i do not agree with this at all but like you said… if you’re looking for a product.. then so is she.

maybe you gave her an eye without noticing and she took it the wrong way and automatically expected it

besides the money thing…some guys don’t purchase girls the drinks because they think that the girl will walk away after or stick around because they have to. either way they were being used then rejected.

but buying some one a drink on occasions will not kill you. it’s like “here let me make your night a tad more fun.” if the girl ends up being a douche then whatever don’t cry that you wasted 8 bucks. move on. wanna save money? buy her a shot from the shot girl, they’re cheaper.

yeah im not doing that to any girl who asks me for a drink..you crazy? but if i feel like doing it its only cuz i know shorty won’t just take the drink and leave me hangin there lol

aww well…i think she was just trying to start conversation with you…or get noticed. especially since she jumped in that picture later. oowie!! … was she vying for some modele attention! she didnt think you would reject her like that.

i think if you were ballin, and really turned off by her, you’d buy her the drink then walk away from her… no eye contact … no acknowledgement. bet she’d never do it again. and she wouldn’t have jumped in that picture with you. but i understand you werent lookin to teach her a lesson or anything.

Personally, I wouldn’t ask for a dude to buy me a drink. I definitely think its gold digger-esque. Will i accept a drink though? of course… especially im intrigued. If i want you to leave me alone, Im not accepting. If you haven’t gotten the hint that I want you to leave me alone, and you keep talking to me, I’m gonna take that Voss and maybe chew the fat with you a little more.

But…..lets talk about boys that WONT STOP pushin the drinks, even after you say no. OR wanna be in their feelings about buyin you a water rather than an alcoholic drink. WOMP WOMP!!! thats tacky! more tacky than a girl asking for a drink.
the girl just had balls. maybe thats not for you. but its for someone. some guys like a girl that approaches them and think its not fair that the boys always have to do the persuing.

I know that there are some women out there who beleive that a man is entitled to buy them a drink, I personally beleive that women should not chase something that wasn’t offered to them. On that same note though, if a man offers to buy a woman a drink, he should do so without expecting to gain something in return except a smile and thank you.

The reality of the situation is that men try to impress women with money in the club. I am personally to preoccupied with stacking my own money to care how much money you have in your pocket. But if you would like to buy me a drink, I will be appreciative, probably keep it moving if you have nothing else to offer and transfer those would be drink funds into my savings account in the morning. That drink means nothing to me. Anybody can buy a drink.

Man Modi I feel you on this, That chick wouldn’t of got one out of me if I had a grand in my pocket, lol I mean the boldness here is the root of the problem, but you she’s been conditioned to having guys buy drinks, she’s probably use to having guys purchase drinks for her, but not Modi!

Holla!

Ok so I just browsed some comments before…didn’t really get into depth thus i’m sorry if i’m being redundant.
I think this girl prob liked you and perhaps went about it the wrong way in your eyes…I mean but to be fair some men really appreciate boldness…if her action didn’t result in you buying her a drink it may have resulted in some interesting conversation about why that’s not your thing …etc. blah blah bullshit…..But uh me myself personally…..I never really expect men to buy me drinks…even if I know them…its really only if I came with them on that more than just friends tip….i mean and honestly in this economic climate i’ve been going dutch a lot lately…i’m ok with that cause if i walk away i have no guilt about the situation…on the other hand Don’t get me wrong though I’m so down with modern social enactments of tropes of masculinity….especially if i get a free drink….i mean who doesn’t like free ….unless of course free isn’t really free and free means there is an expectation of something i don’t want to do….i mean look if a guy offers to buy me a drink …i’ll let him if for instance i want to dance with him and would have regardless if he offered to buy me a drink or not…..Uhm but yeah i get what u’re saying…..i just kinda think u took her action the wrong way…she was so diggin’ you!

ha ha, dude on the left is pointing at her with the booty face, lol

na trust me she didn’t like me. she actually just wanted a drink. she was like 28. i’m sure i looked like a kid to her. she thought she could get me with the okeydoke.

nokeydoke. you can’t get me with that.

I agree. Im a female and I say never buy a girl a drink.. because trust me, as soon as you do, shes gonna walk away and as you say be like “Gottt emm”. You may not even get a smile or any type of conversation on your way out. You should never have to buy conversation. If a woman wants to talk to you, she will talk regardless.

do you know how much a damn jack and coke is in manhattan? $12-16. shiiiiiiiiit.

we’re all broke, it’s a recession and i’m bout to have to defer the $170K in loans which threatens to encroach on my livelihood just so that the interest can shoot up smother me in after a year.

i remember being at cornerstone in md-cp and these terribly busted chicks came up to me after seeing me buy myself a drink, acting like I owed them one. i looked at them like they were crazy, then walked away.

besides, if a woman is really interested, she’ll talk to you regardless of whether you spend $ at the bar. i’m all for equal rights. shit, buy me a damn drink and I got you on the next one.

As a girl I’d say that you had every right to ignore that chick.. That type of girl is probably at the bar all night asking/hinting for free drinks [know girls just like that].. She may have been specifically targeting you but somewhat unlikely since it seems you didnt even acknowledge her and she still made the suggestion.. Fuck it-she could have bought you one.. I dont think I’d mind offering to buy a guy a drink if I got a signal of interest and I wanted to find out more.. But yeah drinks are also too damn expensive to be giving them away to whoever youre looking to get to know.. So I’d say choose wisely on who you buy your drinks for but it is a nice gesture when the timing is right.. just make sure no one “creep up from behind..”

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oh and ive turned enough guys down for drinks because I do think there is some level of expectation and if I don’t want to talk to you, I’m not taking that drink- unless you bought it already and i say I have to go & no time for talk and I see you didnt slip a mickey in there!

I’m definitely with you. I throw peoples drinks or shots on my tab all the time, but never strangers, especially strange women regardless of their aesthetic merit. I end up getting the same in return a lot, so it works out in the end that I don’t lose all my pretty limited funds.
But you know if I’m already talking to a lady, even if I just met her and i’m at the bar anyway, i’ll get her something. It’s not like a “can i buy you a drink” pick-up line, it’s what are you having? It’s just swift. Maybe I tell her next round on you, but I don’t really care, because I’m treating her the same way I would a friend. There’s no neediness, wanting to get something out of her going on that women always pick up on.
And yeah, just to reiterate, definitely never buy a drink for some random hot number that asks me to.
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Yeah if she has to ask … im not buying her a drink. If i’m out having a legitimately interesting conversation with a female and i feel like she’s cool enough 4 me to offer her a drink , then i will. I wont even expect anything from her .. she doesn’t have to like me or even give me her number she just has to keep being cool after i buy her the drink.

Girls have come up to me straight like ” Wanna buy me a drink?” … i tell them no and they are instantly defensive or “un-interested” … smh they need to cut that ish out. But i guess if i was a girl i’d pimp the system too. Alot of pretty girls go out and don’t spend a dime the whole time cuz dudes are paying for coat check , they get in free and ppl are buying bottles 4 them. But with or without money … Im not that dude. Even pretty girls get shut down!!!!!

after reading this particular topic, one phrase came into mind…NOTHING in life is free. it doesn’t matter who is offering what…that person is expecting something in return, be it conversation or something more. and as a female, i have yet to have a random guy offer to buy me a drink, and all he wanted in return was “to talk and get to know me better”…haha yea rite. dnt get me wrong, this goes for guys and girls, don’t accept a drink if you’re not willing to reciprocate in some form

to each his or her own, but it is my personal rule not to accept a drink or anything else purchased from someone that i do not know. i can purchase my own and i am sure as hell not looking to owe anybody anything.

That girl was real bold with it. I have never asked a dude to buy me a drink. And I feel like if she did, it wasn’t her version of a pick up line (i.e. she wasn’t trying to get your attention). She just wanted to hustle that good free drink and keep it moving. On that whole drink-buying dynamic though, I’m all for a free drink if nothing is expected in return. I’ve always taken it as a compliment, much the same as saying “you look pretty tonight, let me drop a ten and help add to your fun” that’s all. Half the time, I’m in the process of paying for the drink myself when the bartender tells me “oh no, he’s got you” and points at some dude. I glance down the way, the fella waves or smiles. I smile and say thank you. Conversation may or may not follow, but there’s no pressure. I think that’s the way it should be. Shoot I’d buy a guy a drink if I thought he was cute enough, feel me?

“She was like 28!” FUNNY TO ME! So the kitten was out prowling for free drinks.. I don’t blame you for not buying her a drink. I dont think it’s very lady like to ask for things… It just doesn’t seem natural to me.

Add me to the list, good move shutting her down!

It’s all about the circle of friends you came with/are hanging with that night. I’ve certainly spent way too much and bought a round of shots or drinks for the group, but like somebody else said, it’s like karma and it comes back around.

I did slip up once though, these 2 chicks who were friends (maybe acquaintances) of a friend of mine timed it right and jumped in as I called for a round and the bartender served them too. They played it cool though and said thanks and we talked for a minute, so it wasn’t a total ninja move.

But I’m with you Modi, nada for the strangers!

Women be TRYfillin’! Women are the reason for recessions hahaha!

hahah Modi! this is really a great topic!
first of all, im still in college and ni**as are cheeapppp as shit lmao.
the only guys buying me a drink are relatives, or 40 something year olds tryna holla

I think these days, chivalry is dead! which is sooo sad, things like buying drinks for ladies at the club or opening car doors, or buying flowers and random love letters by hand dont exist. People pre-game, and write long ass text messages, twitt, and dont even thnk about flowers unless your tryna wife home girl…

and guys arent even thinking about buying ladies drinks, ya’ll are clueless

Well I’ll still wave that flag for you…unless it’s Alicia Keys, I’ll go make wine by hand if she want me too! haha

on the flip, i dont know that i would accept a drink because i would expect the buyer to expect something more than a smile and a thank you. and quite frankly, thats all i’d be willing to drop on him. but if the guy isnt a creeper and the girl isnt a user, then buying a drink could certainly be a nice little way to slide on in and get something going.

how about this, if a girl ASKS for a drink, heck naw. BUT, its not weak to be friendly and offer one, unless its gonna secretly break your pockets and youre faking like you have money for someone dont know through buying that drink. THAT would be lame.

young I feel that brawd just jumping out there like that was TACKY as HE!!………….when I go out I ALWAYS have my own money and do not expect nor desire strange men to buy me drinks……for one don’t want to give dude any ideas etc for two don;t wnat to be pestered all night…..wow this younger generation of woman, not all but alot are clueless, tactless, and uncouth

I’ll accept a drink if (1) it’s offered, (2) the guy isn’t a CREEP, and (2) I’m standing/sitting right beside the guy who bought it for me. I’ve had friends who have been drugged. Working (for a week) at this bikini bar in the hood, the owner would tell me to make the patrons buy me a drink to boost my sales. I don’t think he understood that people DON’T LIKE being blatantly hustled and they can TELL when they are; so they don’t come back to a bar where they feel like the bartender is swindling them. Asking for drinks = no-go. Accepting what’s offered = a conditional go.

Modi, same shit happened to me, i bought a drink told bartender to close the tab and i hear “why don’t you keep that open for one more?” i turn, i reply “who aaarrrrrrreeeeee you?” i exit

i don’t know about not buying women drinks. i would do that. but i’m completely against women asking for drinks. just seems a little thirsty.

maaaan, IMA KEEP IT REAL! IM FROM BATTLE CREEK, MI. I LIVE IN LANSING, MI. MY HOME GIRL GOT OFFENDED WHEN SHE ASKED ME TO BY HER GIRL A DRINK….???? AND THEN I ACTUALL Y HAD 2 DRINKS IN MY HAND – THAT WERE MEANT FOR ME TO DRINK BUT BECAUSE SHE WAS LOOKING AT ME WHEN THIS HAPPENED AND I WOULDA BEEN ON MY 5TH DRINNK IF I DIDNT I GAVE HER ONE…

BUT IN RETURNED I PINCHED HER GIRL ASS, LMAO. SO THEY LOOKED AT ME LIK EI WAS FUCKED UP FOR DOING THAT??? LOL. I FEEL JUS HOW YOU FEEL, BUT IM FROM DA HOOD. BITCH I AINT BALLIN, SO WHY DA FUCK SHOULD I BUY ANY GIRL ANYTHING OFF RIP, JUS BECAUSE SHE GOT A PU$$Y??? SHIIIT I GOTTA DICK! AND IT WORK JUS AS GOOD AS YOUR COIN POUCH SO DONT EXPECT THAT TO BE YOUR MONEY MAKER WHEN LOOKING AT A TRILL ASS N!&&@ FROM DA SOUTHSIDE…. ESPECIALLY DA BAD B!TCHS CUZ IM SERIOUSLY NOT BUYING YOU NOTHING FOR A LIL CONVERSATION THAT I PROLLY COULDA GOT FOR FREE AT DA BUS STOP WIT YOU, OR AT DA LIBRARY,LMAO. REAL TALK!

GD-DAGGET

yeaaaah.

these are rich bitches why don’t they buy drinks for themselves

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